Also she'll want to meet the guy that makes her feel the most comfortable in meeting. But I haven't seen a person yet who cannot improve his lot by working hard on improving it.For example, I love it when guys say they will meet up but no pressure on having sex the first time..meet and have drinks or whatever. Here's what I'd add to this -- the first time with a woman, it's not about you getting off. (This also applies to gay guys.) Forget you have a dick.
I personally know a chick that's a regular of ladyboners and a few other sex related subreddits. You can't find happiness, you have to create it. Yeah, this is bullshit because it's advice that someone gives once they've already accomplished those things, without describing the process. Self-esteem doesn't magically come out of the ether.
She's always in the subreddits trying to pick up on men, but it doesn't appear that they realize it. Normally, the reason people don't do these things is because they have some barrier to how they see the world--they don't trust people, they CAN' T put themselves out there because they're painfully shy, and the only thing worse than being how they are is giving up the only way of being that they've ever known. A lot of it involves getting in touch with yourself and others.
23, m, virgin, I don't think I'm that bad looking, but if I lost a little more weight I'd be just fine in the dating world, but I haven't really had any luck. Since both are free, there's no real obligation to seek out people. I can confirm that I deal with tons of email from tons of guys.
I'd prefer to lose it to someone I can feel comfortable with, but if I can't get anywhere near the end of the year I'll probably hit up a site like Fling/AFF/craigslist and just get it over with so I start feeling a little more comfortable with sex in general. Here's a tip if you want to meet a woman..persistent if she's interested.
That you deserve that awesome woman or man that you only dare to stare at from a distance. You spend your nights all at home playing video games and still you expect to be able to have interesting discussions with other people? You don't deserve good things, you work for them. I've been working on getting back into shape and taking care of myself, but I've been in good shape before and I've always made an effort, its mostly just been a matter of confidence. You talk about getting hobbies and passions, well, you can't just chose to be passionate about something.
That you deserve the great body, healthy skin, perfect job, high pay, amazing holidays, the new computer or your dream fulfilled. There is no one in the universe that looks at you and says "well, you deserve to have all these things, I am going to give them to you". If you can read this you probably already had many great things thrown at you for which you didn't do a thing. The whole concept of "deserving" something, punishment or reward, is based on an ancient logic that there is somebody watching over us who can read your mind and rewards you for merely being good and punishes you for merely being bad. And you should be happy about that, because else probably you would be starving and not the Indian farmer who works 14 hours a day to feed his family and still half his children die from diarrhea and he himself with 30 from starvation. You can be one of the 1% or so lucky ones, those who get things for merely being born in the right family, or with the right looks or the incredible mental skills. I'm trying now to develop some new hobbies that are more likely to attract women, but for about 20 years my main hobby has been working on and playing with computers.
There's a terrible lack of positive, older men who can give life advice out there. Deal with it, accept that you have a good friend, and move on. But don't whine how cruel the girl is because she doesn't let you hump her even when you fix her computer. Instant gratification through TV and fast food and those fake achievements of games that come in exactly that interval that keeps you hooked. Clicking a button and doing fun things will rarely make you successful. Of course, even hard work doesn't guarantee anything. You can sit in front of your computer, doing your job with average results while you spend time on reddit - and you still think you deserve a raise? Women can smell a man that has confidence in himself.
Frankly, my Dad passed away 10 years ago and I'd still like to ask him some things now and then. I'll do as much as I can to help it to be a good place. There is this weird mentally, especially on circlejerking places like Reddit, that somehow you deserve to have all the things you want. You wake up and don't bother to shower but still expect people to enjoy your company? I can’t prove this scientifically, but other men look up to you, and the women follow naturally. You probably can’t be obese, but you don’t have to be jacked. A witty sense of humor and an educated mind goes a long way. I'm 27, and I've been trying to get over my own issues very hard for the last year or so.
I could literally head to right now and have someone here in 20 minutes. I've fucked dozens of substantially hot and freaky women from AFF. You say "it's not that easy" or maybe "you just don't understand to understand a simple fact: The world is not skewed in your favour. Life is not supposed to be easy, it is not supposed to be any way. You need to choose where you want to be, and then you need to work your way towards it. Then go to sleep (and cuddle her hard, you bastard), go have breakfast, then maybe, just maybe, let her do what she's dying to do to Mr. Sure, you'll probably bust your nut in two seconds this time but, because of the ground work, she'll just think it's because you think she's so damn hot, and not that you're an inexperienced dude.