I don't respect Islam, I think it is a bigoted flawed unpleasant quackery that regards women as lesser human beings. So, what should I say if religion and Islam ever become conversation topics?
I wanted badly to believe (regardless of my many doubts) mostly because of the guilt I felt letting it go.
I didn't want to feel the judgement my family would impose on me and I figured "if I believe and there happens to be a god, at least I'm good".
Eventually I did see all the contradictions in the Bible and gained a lot of clarity and gave it up.
Nowadays I feel silly for ever having believed in such a bad, archaic fairy tale. But if it doesn't, I honestly don't think it was meant to be because as an atheist and a vegan I would have way too much contempt for someone who didn't hold those views to be with them.
I seriously doubt that her version of Islam matches yours and imagine she's a cherry picking, cafeteria Muslim (like most Christians).
I hope she beats the cancer and that you two have all the time in the world to hash things out. My 2 cents are that she needs comfort and not reasoning at this time.
It may get her to question her beliefs presuming you live in a society where she can do that. no shes using it to be happy and on an individual level there is nothing wrong with that. Don't use judgemental words as you did in you description above.
That statement also, in a round about way, shows your deep care and concern for her in regards to how other ppl treat dont be selfish, shes going through a tough time. go find a website that will let you cherry pick the Qur'an and find the shit that you like.
But generally speaking religious people are the opposite of that (not always but from experience, mostly). The two of us in isolation were perfectly fine together. I dated a muslim chinese girl for a little bit and the best thing to do from my experience is to just never bring it up.
But I didn't enjoy being "wrong" about so many things in the eyes of her parents, and I didn't enjoy thinking about how many fights we would have if we were ever to try to raise children. It's also probably not going to be too much of an issue since she's dating a non-muslim and in most muslim cultures that's a death sentence.
I also sincerely hope that she and her medical team are able to beat cancer, for as long as she can.