A number of first-person accounts, including Michelle Ofiwe in Tinder found a reason to reckon with its role in society earlier this summer.
In a login video exclusive to Hong Kong users, Tinder showed a user swipe left only once on the only Asian male in the commercial. Though the company said in its apology that “it was not our intention” and that “we see in retrospect how the content could be seen as insensitive,” it provided proof that the struggles of dating as a member of a marginalized group are invisible to everyone else. Some women like people with blue eyes, some guys like girls with short hair. While the fetishizing and discrimination of entire races in the realm of dating is wrong, it’s also something an overwhelming amount of people are guilty of.
Throughout the 20th century, after numerous discriminatory laws (such as Chinese Exclusion Act of 1882, the Immigration Act of 1917, the Geary Act, all anti-miscegenation, which included blacks and Native Americans) were repealed, America entered war with the Japanese, then later Communist-backed North Korea and North Vietnam, which created new stereotypes energized by the ghosts of old.
When it was all over, Asian men found a new box to fill in: the model minority, over-worked math nerds who aren’t sexy enough to party with.
The app’s data proves that black women and Asian men are the demographics on which the highest number of people swipe “left,” thereby rejecting them.
By distilling dates down to a profile picture and a swipe, Tinder encourages users to act on their knee-jerk reactions, and that lightning fast process lights up corners of our minds we haven’t fully grappled with as a society.
America’s first Asians endured discrimination from whites who felt their jobs were stolen, so their effeminate clothes, alien languages, and smaller physical features became targets.
Early American media birthed the Yellow Peril, a treacherous imp who sought white women and white lands.
You can only hope that she leaves her fake eyelashes at home and that she doesn’t twerk all night. Let’s have a look at when you date a black woman for the first time….Strippers, Grillz, loud Hip Hop music, rude behavior and gang member friends…That’s what a lot of white and Asian guys who think about dating a black woman for the first time imagine. Approach her like a blank paper and allow the experience to fill the paper with life.You can’t run away from it. The decision to date a black woman always contains the decision to experience gossiping, racist jokes and stupid comments. For now, accept that the gossip, jokes and all the other verbal diarrhea that makes you angry is something to expect when dating a black woman. The sooner you learn to deal with it, the happier you will be in your first relationship with a black woman. Defend your relationship when there is no other way, but don’t get bothered when there is another way. Tell her that everything is okay, that she shouldn’t worry about these dickheads and give her a kiss that proves that you love her. Start an argument with the person who insulted you, her, or your relationship and try to convince this moron to change his opinion.
The music and movie industry did a really good job in making you believe that all black women are like this: What you don’t realize is that there are many black women who would love to date a white or an Asian guy and none of them looks like the woman in the image above. It’s not beautiful, not fair and it’s anything but empowering. If he doesn’t want to change his opinion, you can start a fight to prove how much you love your girlfriend.
The algorithm-based sites of the early 2000s now look obsolete, and for millions, dating has been boiled down to one essential question: “Is this person hot?
”But, in drastically streamlining the attraction process, and entirely by accident, Tinder became the skeleton key to unlocking data on racism in America.
And the model minority stereotype, as well, has left its share of psychological damage on Asian-American young people.