Hi Guys, My boyfriend has just walked out on me after three years of what I thought was a great relationship. Yes, you did breach the trust of your relationship by snooping, but we can assure you that you’re not the one who caused irreparable damage to the relationship. Because otherwise we can’t see how you could “accidentally” discover he was on a dating site.I discovered by accident he had been using a dating site, and in the last two months had been winking and flirting with women on it. And he has made me feel like I’m such an awful person. (That’s why “accident” is in quotes.) But the problem here, is once you procure information in a covert fashion it’s very difficult to do much with it. I didn’t say anything for a couple of days because I was in shock and wanted to be calm when I discussed it with him. But then he sent me an odd text saying he loves me. Once you tell him how you discovered the information he’ll immediately shut down and feel that you violated the trust of your relationship. However, even though you “accidentally” discovered the information, now that you have it, it trumps any argument he can raise.
The only way you’d know that he’s also on e Harmony is if you’re ALSO on e Harmony.
Essentially, you’re saying, “I’m not a loser, player, commitmentphobe or dating addict, but any man who does the same thing that I’m doing must be.”So to set the record straight: going on multiple dating sites means that you’re looking to expand your options.
There is another myth in your question, Barb–the idea that someone who signed up on Match in January ‘06 and is still on in January ‘08 has been on for two consecutive years.
Let’s say he dated seven people in his first two months and then found a happy relationship that lasted for a year and a half.
My boyfriend of 10 months is addicted to dating sites.
We met on line in February and hit it off right away.In fact, in my dating heyday, I didn’t just try JDate. Just like alcohol can be used recreationally or abusively, so can I tried Match, Chemistry, e Harmony, Nerve, American Singles, Matchmaker… What’s similar is that the users always think that they’ve got it under control, and that nobody’s getting hurt in the process. There’s a delusional aspect to successful online dating–one that I’ve embodied–one that I’ve seen in my clients as well.Read testimonials on our Relationship Coaching/Advice site._______________________________ Read more Relationship Advice and Dating Advice: Why does he have a secret Facebook page? He won’t bring me out with his friends Friends with benefits: why me? This is an example of a guy getting caught with his hand in the cookie jar and then denying it ever happened. Because now you’re second guessing yourself, and wondering if maybe you’re the problem. We assume something must have tipped you off, causing you to be suspicious of your boyfriend.You sign up on e Harmony because you’re serious about a relationship.