Barbara Foley never imagined her daughters would be single at ages 36, 38 and 40. Foley, of Norwell, Mass., has been married to her husband, Steve, for 41 years. Of that number, 53 percent were women, and 47 percent were men.
“That’s why I’m working so hard on myself now,” she said.
“I feel like I need to develop my personality and my strength to be able to be in a healthy, life-affirming, mature, adult relationship.”The wait is more fun knowing that her sibling is also single.
With no impetus on their own and no pressure from their fun-loving parents, the children have no reason to settle down.“There are plenty of single men out there,” Dr. “I know that men suffer just as much as women do from loneliness.
Moreover, men fall in love faster than women, they fall in love more often, and when men find a sweetheart, they want to introduce her to friends and family sooner.”She added, “It does suggest that men are just as dependent on stable relationships and good family communication as women are — indeed, I suspect a bit more so.”Suzette Malkin, a mother of two single daughters, ages 33 and 36, who all live together in Memphis, sees too many young people in unhealthy relationships. “I just want them to be able to take their time and realize that it’s worth waiting for.”Erin Malkin, the older daughter, feels fortunate to have a mother who will support her until she is ready to start a family.
“I almost thought I had to apologize to people because I’m 62 and don’t have grandchildren yet,” she said.
Her daughter Heather said: “My friends’ parents are somewhat more concerned about my status than my parents.
“I’ve seen the current nuclear family almost dominate so much,” she said, “that they don’t feel the pressure or the need to find a partner for themselves.”With so few, if any, permanent partners entering the picture, some, like Ms.
Garfinkle, say that relations with close family members can grow somewhat stale and awkward.
“She wanted that; she wanted to be surrounded by family.”As for herself, Ms.
Garfinkle thinks back to high school when her friends wrote in her yearbook that she would be the first to have kids. “They make the effort.”Heather Foley spends a lot of time with her sisters, visiting them in Manhattan, traveling with them and running 5-kilometer races together. The Malkin family celebrates every Sabbath together without exception.“I guess I’m selfish because I like having them around,” Mrs. “I enjoy them being over, I enjoy seeing them at every holiday and living in the same town.
She and her sisters constantly tease their mother, telling her not to worry, that she will be a mother of the bride one day.