The guy told me he worked as a Delta Operator (Special Corps Anti Terrorism) and I never doubted it because everything he mentioned about his job was supported by pictures with his buddies and him in the compound, so I naively trusted him.He told me he was on a long mission after which he would come to Dubai to meet me in person.He told me about his ex-girlfriend of four years, who repeatedly cheated on him every time he was on a mission.
It was just a way to kill time and exchange stories with my girlfriends but one morning I happened to swipe right on a 28-year-old American guy, objectively handsome and he immediately matched me. We swapped numbers on Whats App very quickly and I appreciated that.
His profile description looked very smart and trustworthy, a nice good-looking guy looking for a smart, independent and strong woman. He was super sweet and willing to show me pictures plus give information related to his life and job.
His words were clearly lame and fake like a kid who got caught eating chocolate.
The first half of the text was mainly apologies and insults toward himself.
When he saw the comment he totally went mad and told me I was inappropriate as "Instagram is not a place to get into fights with random people." I was pretty surprised at his reaction and told him commenting on his picture after he claimed he loved me for two months did not seem that wrong to me.
I soon realized he'd deactivated the account, then he said he was about to go on a night operation and he would message me later. I was worried but kept telling myself that if his phone was off he was probably unable to answer due to security reasons (it had happened during the two months but not for more than a couple of days).
The day after his phone was off so I thought he must be in mission. After eight days, I totally went crazy as I had no way whatsoever to touch base with him at least to make sure he was okay and not hurt.
It was the week of an ISIS attack in Kabul and I was feeling so powerless, a little down.suspicious that he might want to not be found!
No matter how smart, clever and well-educated we are about networking (I'm a PR person so I know it well!
), in a busy city like Dubai, when often feel lonely, vulnerable and dating online looks like the only solution. A few weeks after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend of six months – it was a very painful and complicated relationship – I eventually decided to have a look at Tinder, mostly out of boredom and to try to get over my ex.
From that moment on he built up day after day, hour-after-hour, the character of the perfect man.