If I phrase it as "he's not that keen", does that sound better? Thanks all for your views and I think I shall just leave it to him and see what happens.
But then I'm not telling you anything you don't know, as if he was keen, you'd know where you stood. I'm not prepared to be second best or messed around so we shall see!
It's all soooo confusing lol x Seriously, all the he's not that into you is mostly bullshit, designed to make women passive!
If he is still texting you, then he is still interested at some level - men don't keep up polite conversation for the sake of it.
And at least you'll know rather than waiting around wondering! It's not about encouraging women to be passive - it's reminding us that a relationship is driven forward by 2 people wanting it to happen.
Women are much more inclined than men to build up hopes based on one or two dates, and it's a way of keeping that tendency in check - OP said she felt she had 'led' on 2nd date, so now it's his turn. I see that maybe he is playing it cool but guess he wouldn't waste his time texting me if he wasn't interested.
Your instinct is telling you he isn't that keen but the texting is confusing you.
My gut reaction is that he is keeping you on the sidelines..maybe he has other women is similar positions.
Texting is doing my head in as I don't know where I stand.
Anyhow we shall see what happens x I'd sugggest this: if you are annoyed by his texting, try not replying or replying much more briefly than before /not every time - i.e. If he's keen he may ask why and you could say that you'd much rather talk in person and you aer not into texting, if he doesn't ask you out then then really forget him.
Both went really well and we had a laugh and both seemed to enjoy ourselves.