Ironically he refused talk therapy as a way to deal with his illness 33.) constantly was negative and often wrote me e-mails in which he would put me, my family or daughter down.
34.) often brought up how much he hated his ex girlfriends 35.) constantly berated me for not doing things I said I would do and how I never thought about him 36.) often complained he âgave moreâ to others and expected nothing in return, when in reality he made note of it 37.) constantly complained we only did things I enjoyed, and I never thought about him 38.) he spent the night at a crisis center when I first broke it off with him, only 3 months into dating 39.) cried and begged me back 40.) was addicted to on line dating and would post on multiple dating sites even while engaged 41.) expected me to appear at certain events even after he broke up with me and became enraged when I didnât.
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He has not been involved in another relationship since and blames me for his actions, saying I deserved it. What they think and say one day can be entirely different the next day. When we first broke up (this is the second time) he cried to get me back, but we were both so emotionally that I cried as well. --during fights he would not answer his phone, turn off the lights at his home and pretend he wasnât there refusing to speak 50. I tried sooo hard to stay to help him, but he shut me out one day out of the blue. Agree-- "told me he didnât think anyone could be as supportive and loving as his parents had been in his life" unfortunately, 56 is also accurate.
He never said goodbye to my daughter, who loved him dearly. I did something horrible to him, and he wanted me back. "said I would end up leaving like all the rest" ... Everyone told me to let him go, because I was in pain with his ups and down. I do not believe all of the events and traits you stated here are attributable to Bipolar Disorder.
For those of you still enduring that are getting no where try and get them to a qualified therapist along with making sure your spouse/lover is getting the right medication. Like I said, he never said goodbye to her and she didnât deserve that. Later in an e-mail he told me he doesnât mean to do bad things, and that most relationships end badly because that is the way of the world. Itâs been 15 months since we have broken up and I have never received an apology and he never has once asked about my daughter who would have become his stepdaughter. I must rephrase that in the beginning, everything was hot, steamy passionate and very very intense. I wonder if she had said something to him or if he did it to prove how sad I made him and he was getting rid of the things he loved most. Mine did inappropriate things, like grabbing my crotch in public or pulling up my shirt when his parents left the room.
And for the few of you that actually have survived relationships through this illness. To the author of this article people who have BIPOLAR do not choose to be born that way it's heridtary so for you to say you will never get involved with a bipolar person is ignorant and your daughter is going to end up as ignorant as you. I have been diagnosed with bipolar for 6 years now and I am a successfully lawyer. Thatâs why I posted what I did to warn other women, that this illness is so unpredictable and the saddest thing in all this is that my daughter got hurt the worse and lost a potential daddy. Although my ex-bf and I didnt have anything in common I think that is what drew us close together. In fact he sold a lot of things after the breakup that we enjoyed doing together, like videos we watched, etc. I must disagree with the "lack of showing affection" as being a bipolar characteristic, simply because my ex was the opposite. Holding hands in public, kissing, and he was actually the cuddler. Itâs like he wanted to get âcaughtâ doing something bad.
Looking back on it now, it was a direct manipulation and it worked, because I showed up at his door that evening. I wish I had done my research prior to my involvement with him instead of learning as I went along and although I know not all bipolarâs are the same I would like to post the warning signs I ignored and say that if anyone here is considering getting involved with someone with this illness be prepared to face a lifetime of pain. Very little french kissing or touching in general, but otherwise acted very sexual. 4.) wrote me an e-mail of things he expected of me and from the relationship early on including marriage and children. 5.) told me he âloved meâ after our 5th date 6.) clearly by now he is in a full manic stage.
I have yet to meet someone in person or on line that has a healthy relationship with someone with this illness. He brought me down to such a state of depression that I myself had to take medication several months after our breakup for depression. Everything was euphoric, he was taking me on the ride with him 7.) did or made inappropriate sexual comments, grabbing my crotch in public, saying or asking inappropriate things 8.) wanted to know how far I have gone sexually, i. Threesomes, etc 9.) talked about sex all the time, but when it came right down to it, he used it as a way to control me, saying this such as âa good way not to get me to sleep with you is by asking me to.â 10.) sex the first time was horrible and many times thereafter.I had a child and I wasnât about to subject her to something I knew little about.He wrote me back an e-mail which made me feel horribly guilty.It wasnât until after all was said and done that I did everything I could to read up on this disorder. I would therefore caution anyone reading your post to approach all relationships-including those with Bipolars-with due caution and allow the other individual to present his/her individual self without preemptive stereotypes and judgments. I cannot image what he would be like without the drugs. I too wonder if there isnât some âpersonality disorderâ that went undiagnosed. I have been seeing my therapist for over 2 years now, and ironically it was my ex that suggested I see someone, since he accused me of being bipolar quite frequently.For those of you out there contemplating getting involved with someone with this disorder my advice is to turn and run. He never pointed out how much money he spent on me. My daughter also goes, as the breakup affected her immensely since she really had bonded with him. For instance he was very into video games and collecting toys. He was a star wars collector, which I thought was very cool. After our breakup he sold many items on ebay which made me sad, because I knew how much they meant to him. That bipolar people are affectionate, but when they become depressive, they want to be left alone.He said it was funner having women want him sexually but not giving into them.