If you find yourself dating someone with a guarded heart, understand that: People with guarded hears trust themselves more than any other person on the planet.
Because of this, we enjoy being alone much more than others may.
Since it’s incredibly hard for us to trust anyone, we don’t dive into relationships head first.
Meeting new people is a draining process because we have to keep our guard up at all times until we are sure we can trust somebody.
When dating someone with a guarded heart, understand they would rather spend a quiet night on the couch with you than out with a group of friends.
It’s likely, knowingly or unknowingly, that your own actions have resulted in someone else’s pain.
When it comes to dating and relationships, most of us don’t point fingers and curse the world – it’s simply part of the “process” of finding a life partner.
Eventually, the person will slowly let their guard down.
But while their “security system” has been downgraded, their defensive mechanisms remain on alert (a byproduct of evolution, by the way.)Still, many will somehow manage to find a person to believe in despite their understandable reservations. That other “someone” must often contend with the remnants of the guarded person’s past.Whether or not such contention is acceptable or not is up to the individual.However, if you truly love the person, you will – at the very least – try and find a way to make the relationship work.Should you feel guilty about exiting such a relationship? To love someone with a guarded heart can be overwhelming. Upon uncovering that the person you care for has a guarded heart, the most responsible and noble act is to be honest in everything you do. No “sleight of hand.”Related article: 5 Words You Need To Remember To Make Your Relationship Last This applies to situations when you think what you say may hurt them.Hiding or manipulating the truth is worse than being honest, even if said honesty results in someone you love experiencing hurt.As an analogy…If your computer was hacked, what would you do? In the same (albeit, more humanistic) way, those whose trust has been violated secure and safeguard their emotions.