Unfortunately, once a relationship gets going, those masks must eventually come off, and disappointments often follow.
Though it may be more anxiety producing to be more authentic up front, I believe that it is far more successful in the long run.
I’ve had several relationships that all started out well but ended in my partners leaving me.
I’m terribly insecure and have difficulty believing that love exists. I’m reasonably attractive and very kind, but people take advantage of me on a regular basis because it’s hard for me to say no.
On the first, put everything you know about who you are.
Include significant history, personality characteristics, any strong opinions, expectations of others and the world at large, people you admire, hopes and dreams.
The second list is what you imagine to be a perfect relationship.
If you could create the kind of partnership that would fulfill your most profound expectations, what would it be like?
Since online dating began, many of my patients have shared dating profiles of potential relationship partners with me.
Despite many connections, most are disappointed with the difference between whom they expect to meet and who shows up.
Even though I’m afraid of criticism, I’d rather know the truth if it’s said in a kind way.