They’re older children who still need to be allowed to grow into adults so they’re able to birthday, nor will they automatically understand all the ins and outs of adulthood.However, that does mean once they reach that age they’re able to make decisions – good and bad – on their own behalf.
If you do find yourself in this situation, it’s important to recognize the fine line between giving your child direction and imposing demands.
So here are 4 ways to direct your teen or adult child when you don’t approve of a friend or dating relationship they are pursuing.
The first step to take in a fragile situation is to read 4 C’s for Communicating with Your Teen. Then, sit down with your child and explain that you’d like to talk through the issue together.
Thank them for being willing to talk for a few minutes.
Until then, you are the one who makes these major decisions about their safety and wellbeing.
Important Conversations to Consider If it were an adult pursuing your child, I would encourage you to talk to them one-on-one as long as there were no safety concerns.
Having a relationship with someone before they have reached the Age of Consent is against the law, and it may emotionally harm your child as well.
Underage Teens Can't Consent Even if a teenager looks or acts mature, or makes sexual advances towards an adult, they’re still underage and Permission From an Underage Teen Doesn’t Count.
Start the conversation with love by sharing how you love them unconditionally, as I discuss in my blog 8 Things Every Father Must Teach His Daughter. That’s why I’m talking to you about this, why I’m doing this, and why I’m making this decision.” Once they know you have their best interests at heart, you will be free to explain your thoughts.