She lived near a dozen beautiful beaches outside of Los Angeles until I ripped her away to snowy Minnesota.
We have water in Minneapolis; it’s just frozen half the year.
You need the brakes put on in a big way, which might even mean putting this relationship on pause for a season while you each nurture purity of heart through discipleship and prayer.
You can be assured that it will happen, but only if you pursue it with your whole heart. John Thomas has been a Boundless contributor since its beginning in 1998.
Don’t be foolish; make the difficult changes you need to make now and enjoy the great fruit that will come from good choices in the not too distant future. He and his wife, Alfie, have three children and live in Arkansas, where he serves as executive director of Ozark Camp and Conference Center, a youth camp and retreat center.
You have set some very good goals about purity in your relationship, but your other choices are undermining those goals and will likely cause you to fail. Saying that you want to save your first kiss for marriage is awesome, but kissing on the cheek or the side of your lips — as if that is not kissing — is not going to help you accomplish that goal.
Having your bodies against one another, even though clothed, for extended time while struggling with lustful thoughts and becoming nervous and excited will not help you accomplish your goals of sexual purity.
Part of enjoying the beach, at least in California, is enjoying the sunshine.
We have weather like theirs here, too, blue skies, burning sun, light breeze — at least for two or three weeks every year.Can you give me some suggestions how we can love each other so much but also help each other not be sexually tempted?How can I discuss this healthily and openly with him so that both of us won’t get tempted after the discussion?Sexual purity starts in the heart and grows out from there.If it is not yet in the heart, but is still in that long journey from head to heart, then you must have strong, fortified boundaries to protect you while you nurture purity of heart. James -15 says, “We are tempted by our own desires that drag us off and trap us.Your desires are about to drag you off and trap you.