As Brené Brown wisely said, “In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.” (Please watch her TED Talk if you haven’t yet.)Individually, the traits that make up the deeper dating movement seem like clichés you’d read on an inspirational mug: Be yourself. Does this philosophy resonate with you like it does with me? It’s extraordinarily well-documented that the prevalence of casual sex and hook-ups have contributed to a significant decline in intentional dating and marriage.The film, which premiered for one night only on April 17, follows the romantic lives of five young people of various ages.
How do we move an entire culture that is saturated with this casualness toward sex and relationships and that has experienced such incredible changes in technology, communication, and community formation?
One central conclusion of the film is that we need to teach and encourage more intentional dating among young people.
Kerry Cronin, who teaches philosophy at Boston College, where she is known as “the dating prof.” The assignment: to go on a “Level 1 date”—defined as no longer than 60 to 90 minutes, light, get-to-know-you conversation only, no alcohol or physical affection beyond an A-frame hug allowed (shoulders touch, not full body embrace), the invitation must use the word “date,” be in person, not over text, and whoever asks, pays. Cronin’s assignment has generated a fair bit of popularity on campus, and for good reasons.
Cronin poignantly speaks to the unhappiness of most students concerning the hook-up culture and the loneliness and confusion it creates, while offering them a simple solution to their dating lives. Cronin told the Boston Globe, “and we need to teach our young people the virtue of social courage.
"The Dating Project" follows five young adults—two college students, a 20-something, a 30-something, and a 40-something—through a series of interviews and life experiences concerning their romantic lives.
The stories of the two college students are fairly straightforward: they’re on an extra credit assignment for Dr.
We met at a wine bar, my first Hinge match and I, a week after I moved to the city. I navigated this undefined territory for six months, probably four longer than I should have.
Maybe we’d fall for each other — we had so much in common — but we’d take our time. Neither seemed appealing, but I chalked it up to what everyone says: Dating is hard.
For me, the key to making the philosophy work is seeing all forms of connections as equally compelling.