This is better than “going for drinks” because that usually involves just sitting at a bar until god knows when.It’s also good to do quick weeknight dates so that you guys can meet up after work and both know you’ll need to be home at a reasonable hour.
It takes the average person YEARS to find a partner, why would you want to make this process any slower than it already is?
I’m trying to get you up and out of the dating scene here, not stuck in it For introverts, first dates are minefields of small talk and mindless chatter. if a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one to hear it, would this date be just as bad? If you have a negative mindset going in, the date is going to be a lot harder to get through and you’re not going to have any fun. It’s not about him “judging you”, it’s about seeing if the two of you get along and if you dig each other’s vibe.
Instead of thinking that hes judging you, think that he’s interested in you. This is especially true if you guys met online and got a feel for his lifestyle and interests before meeting up.
If his interests weren’t “I like to party hard every weekend and shotgun beers until it comes out my nose” and were more like “I enjoy reading books and working out alone” then it’s really likely he’s probably introverted just like you.
It was the difference between drowning in a conversation that I didn’t care about for hours, and getting home in time to catch up on Youtube videos.
It also allowed me to stick with the dating game for a lot longer before getting burned out and having to take a break.
The article also mentions that if you want to only go on one date every three months, that’s totally fine.
Yes, it’s “totally fine” but you’re seriously lowering the chances of finding someone you connect with.
These dates involve a lot of one on one talking time with no escape if you’re not having fun.
It’s really hard to say “ok I have to go home now” or some other awkward excuse to peace out.
One date every three months is only four dates in a whole year.