Moreover, if custody or parenting schedule issues are unresolved, the non-dating parent might seek to demonstrate that the other parent’s introduction of a new partner is not in the children’s best interests and should result in a change of custody or a parenting schedule change.Finally, if the new partner has children, the demands of those children can further reduce the child’s needed time with his or her biological parent.Children of all ages, including teens, experience tremendous loss and change with divorce.
This will expose the child to unnecessary conflict between the parents and possibly make the child feel that he or she has done something wrong and is now in trouble.
From a practical standpoint, if divorce negotiations are pending, the non-dating parent’s emotions about the new relationship may interfere with settlement negotiations.
Unfortunately, the divorce rate for second marriages and later marriages is even higher than for first marriages.
How can one go about preventing or at least reducing the possibility of a second failed relationship?
Examining why a relationship failed can be very painful, especially when not thinking about it is a comfortable coping mechanism.
Getting in touch with the pain and learning that we choose the feelings, the behaviors and sometimes the partners we have, can be important to moving past the pain.
Meeting and dating a new person following a divorce can be very intoxicating.
Having experienced what is often a severe blow to self-esteem, the newly divorced person may be tempted to become quickly involved in a new relationship.
Children bond easily, and may fantasize that the parent will marry the new partner.