And if I was a woman and our first date was at a bar, I would think you were a jerk. Talk about and have some fun together which then opens up conversation and allows both of you to get to know each other better.

The culture in Thailand is steeped in formality and meeting the parents in a western country is certainly not the same as in Thailand.
When you are introduced to a Thai lady’s parents then there is actually an expectation at some point in the future that a marriage proposal is looming.
And I’ll tell you about one of the areas that got me into trouble initially – was cultural differences in talking and conversational remarks that weren’t understood or confused to be an insult.
So that’s an area that you need to flesh out yourself, and start learning the language so that you have an understanding of how they think, what words could be taken out of context or what words are similar and might be construed as confusing or insultive.
And never ever insult the Thai people or put down the Thai culture.
That’s simply bad form, in anyone’s language, and again shows you as a jerk and an idiot.And because Thai women are so conscientious, you’re also expected to be well shaved (facial I’m talking about here), well groomed and looking smart for the evening, or wherever you’ve happened to arrange for your date.Public displays of suggestion or bold suggestion, too quickly, will certainly put a Thai woman off-side and on guard.Use restraint to start with so that you both can get understanding of each other.The lowest common denominator is the pace to move on.One of the mind tricks that I use and it’s just a mindset thing. When you don't have the butterflies, you’re more relaxed.