Not all will agree with Scott’s approach, and we invite feedback from anyone who believes there are better interpretations for the biblical passages Scott draws from.It’s our hope that this Q&A series will be valuable both for those who think the Bible gives sufficient guidance for operating within our current system as well as for those who are looking for a completely countercultural path to marriage. How can Christians think differently about this pervasive issue in media and culture? The answer to that last question is “not well.” Surveys consistently indicate that professing Christians behave almost exactly like non-Christians in terms of sexual involvement outside of marriage (in both percentage of people involved and how deeply involved they are — how far they’re going), living together before marriage, and infidelity and divorce after marriage.The answers he brings may be different from anything you’ve heard before.



Men must do what they can, and God will take care of what they cannot do.
Therefore, my second response is to go events sponsored by churches and members of the church.
There you are going to find people will similar values to your own.
Still, Christians are widely spread through the world. There are services available to single Christians that allow you to correspond with other Christians.
The system today’s young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.
We often hear complaints from readers about the confusion, hurt and sexual sin they’ve encountered despite their best intentions.
Indeed, the central issue we need to confront — and the reason I write and speak on this topic — is that when it comes to dating and relationships, perhaps more than in any other area of the everyday Christian life, the church is largely indistinguishable from the world.
That truth has brought immeasurable emotional pain and other consequences to many Christians.
They can be useful and I know several Christians who have met their spouse in this fashion. Talk to the elders or the preacher at that congregation.