The more you get comfortable talking like this at home, the less shy you’ll come across on your dates. Thank goodness for tables under which you can fidget with your hands when you feel nervous.One technique that helps many of my clients is to take your thumb and index finger on one hand and press them together with medium pressure.
Wearing a shirt or hat with your college name, carrying an eclectic handbag, wearing an interesting watch or bracelet, or pulling out your cell phone with a custom/interesting case are all ways to distract the focus from you.
At the end of the day, this is the main secret to successful dating, especially for shy men and women: distract yourself from the thoughts in your head and come out, come out, come out to play. Being shy basically means that you have a lot of personality inside you, but you feel uncomfortable releasing it to people you don’t really know.
In other words, if you don’t know him, why should you really care?
Redirect your thoughts to your interests and talk about those on a new date.
For dating purposes, try taking a video of yourself as you say hello and ask your date a few questions.
Take many videos and watch them, but the point is to spend more time practicing making small talk and asking questions in a comfortable, natural way.
Steer the conversation to vacation spots you love, television programs you follow, or authors you read.
As long as you start talking about things you care about, you’ll be a lot more relaxed – and a whole lot less shy.
The tips below are provided to give you a general structure and guidelines to follow in dating.